tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post7978543882386078884..comments2024-03-18T09:00:31.992-04:00Comments on Doctor Grumpy in the House: Mary's Desk, October 20, 2009Grumpy, M.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/09858110332436246760noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-46066942576012120052009-10-25T04:42:28.263-04:002009-10-25T04:42:28.263-04:00Cathy- neither the woman who called, or her mother...Cathy- neither the woman who called, or her mother, were patients of my practice. We'd never heard of either of them prior to this call.Grumpy, M.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09858110332436246760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-20978288156480623112009-10-25T04:37:38.860-04:002009-10-25T04:37:38.860-04:00Stop raggin on this woman so badly. At least she w...Stop raggin on this woman so badly. At least she was making calls and asking for help. She wasn't just walking out the door and leaving her mom in a locked bedroom all day. Obviously she doesn't know about respite care (or) I have a feeling we don't know this whole story. I would like to know if this woman is a patient of your practice, and if you and daughter had talks about respite? If so, maybe the daughter didn't completely understand how it works, thinking maybe she needed to call your office to get it set up? I ask this because the way you tell this makes no sense that a stranger off the street would call any Dr. office and ask such a thing. However, if her mother was your patient and there had been certain discussions prior to this, then I think we aren't being told enough of the story.Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13540096932312929506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-11058633759401010682009-10-23T16:24:27.033-04:002009-10-23T16:24:27.033-04:00Unbelievable!Unbelievable!Joaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08943128638748507880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-90927976090307252282009-10-21T22:24:03.051-04:002009-10-21T22:24:03.051-04:00@LD50 Rat: in saying I found this sad on so many l...@LD50 Rat: in saying I found this sad on so many levels I have to qualify that I meant for the elderly mother. The infuriating on so many levels was aimed at the loving daughter.<br /><br />Personally I think Mary handled the phone call quite well. I would have been a heck of a lot less than professional dealing with the daughter. <br /><br />And yes, I too know how difficult it is providing care 24/7. But to ring around Doctor's surgeries hoping to find somewhere that 'day care' doesn't cost and holding out the carrot of medicare fraud is a tad reprehensible.<br /><br />just sayin', allausduckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14652949172620096113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-33964447934869054892009-10-21T12:28:12.619-04:002009-10-21T12:28:12.619-04:00I'm clearly not using my pediatrician to his f...I'm clearly not using my pediatrician to his fullest potential.AmyAnnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01601325735362214669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-30264566338444384882009-10-21T12:21:44.169-04:002009-10-21T12:21:44.169-04:00Perhaps she should have upped the ante: Lot of Di...Perhaps she should have upped the ante: Lot of Diet Coke and some fresh tomatoes for Mrs GrumpyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-65631110435690711742009-10-21T12:09:36.919-04:002009-10-21T12:09:36.919-04:00The answer is Respite care.
The caregiver has to ...The answer is Respite care.<br /><br />The caregiver has to sign up in advance, but there are programs in almost every community for Respite care so that caregivers can get a day off.<br /><br />Guess what, Medicare will even pay for it.Don Millerhttp://www.tetonmachine.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-42327034420533657982009-10-21T11:34:47.748-04:002009-10-21T11:34:47.748-04:00All the people who feel sorry for this loon are am...All the people who feel sorry for this loon are amazing.<br /><br />Had she rung up about dumping her autistic 3 year kid at someone's doctor's office, you'd all be howling CPS should be called.<br /><br />This daughter is gaming the system. No one pulls "just bill Medicare." out of their ass in a moment of desperation.<br /><br />Oh before I get the "you don't understand whine", yes I do. My sister and I took care of my bed-ridden quadriplegic mom for 15 years, with minimal help and no extra cash. That started when I was 21, so I know what a life style cramping, buzz kill experience it can be.<br /><br />I'd do it all again in a heart beat. No regets here. <br /><br />LD50 Rat.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-83741478626445800142009-10-21T11:06:18.954-04:002009-10-21T11:06:18.954-04:00I get that the daughter is in a tough situation wi...I get that the daughter is in a tough situation with caring for her mom. But those of you chastizing the reactions, come ON! Who calls a DOCTOR'S OFFICE for a babysitter??<br /><br />The daughter clearly knows there are other options, she just doesn't want to pay for it. Tough, yes, but if SHE doesn't want to fork over cash for day care for her mom, why should a doctor's office neglect other patients for free (or defraud medicare GAH!) to do it?<br /><br />No, tough situation yes, but the daughter clearly isn't thinking about her mother.A Peachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14970182275834818042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-22324241079758718172009-10-21T08:43:26.104-04:002009-10-21T08:43:26.104-04:00Hey ED RN:
NO, I did not miss the part about Medi...Hey ED RN:<br /><br />NO, I did not miss the part about Medicare Fraud.<br /><br />I personally think the woman wasn't thinking about committing Medicare Fraud. Only wanted a day to go take care of other business. She is probably very stressed out. And wanted people perhaps she knows or her mom knows taking care of her, for a few hours. (may not be comfortable with adult day care, or had it and was not pleased with how she was treated). just saying. <br /><br /> Now she will probably have to take her mom with her. I feel very bad for this woman. I am sure she has like most of us a thousand and one things to do. <br /><br />I am not downing Mary or any other health care professionals. I was just saying, it's too bad, she wasn't given other resources, to help her out. <br /><br />We could all use some kindness of others these days.<br /><br />mmAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-81440958825555062402009-10-21T05:25:20.404-04:002009-10-21T05:25:20.404-04:00"This woman is probably at the end of her rop..."This woman is probably at the end of her rope and probably about to tie a noose, either for herself or for her mother. And you're all laughing at her -- insert here sounds of disgust! -- couldn't you have given her some helpful suggestions? Mary, I thought you were better than this!"<br /><br />Ummmm did you miss the part of his post where the daughter mentioned adult day care? She is obviously aware of other options. This lady wanted Dr Grumpy to commit mediscare fraud. <br /><br />What time Thursday morning should we be expecting her in the ED?<br /><br />ED RNAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-47477358637625737942009-10-21T04:54:50.671-04:002009-10-21T04:54:50.671-04:00I've told my kids to put a plastic bag over my...I've told my kids to put a plastic bag over my head. "Life" like that isn't living.Fiznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-75464790034595072292009-10-21T03:57:45.103-04:002009-10-21T03:57:45.103-04:00I sure hope this woman, gets help for her mom. Th...I sure hope this woman, gets help for her mom. There should be help from the state. She is saving the state a lot of money, by taking care of her. All this woman needs is some respite. We should not be critizing her. Or putting her down. Sorry but until you are in her shoes, like so many of us are, please don't say unpleasant/hurtful things. <br /><br />I am sorry however, that she had to bother doctors offices, to get help. It's just too bad that someone didn't have a few resources for her to call.<br /><br />Have a nice day.<br /><br />mmAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-4491241092934963002009-10-21T02:06:25.274-04:002009-10-21T02:06:25.274-04:00@ ERP - is that Jesus H's brother??? :)
This ...@ ERP - is that Jesus H's brother??? :)<br /><br />This is sad on so many levels, as well as darned infuriating on so many levels. And goddammit we just don't care... enough to break the law so that a daughter doesn't have to fork out money for day care. *tongue-in-cheek*<br />Yep, I smell an ED granny-dump for Thursday. Happens here in Aus too, although most community day-care centres are state funded. But there can be a long waiting list.ausduckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14652949172620096113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-33457906354684405322009-10-21T02:00:40.375-04:002009-10-21T02:00:40.375-04:00Hahaha. I feel bad for the woman and her situation...Hahaha. I feel bad for the woman and her situation, and of course it's a tragic disease, but this definitly proves that you do attract some "special" people alright.Madeleinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06780856118607164892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-57201660673082599342009-10-21T00:22:01.734-04:002009-10-21T00:22:01.734-04:00Amazing. Sure it's exhausting caring for an Al...Amazing. Sure it's exhausting caring for an Alzheimer's patient, but asking a medical provider to babysit AND defraud Medicare is just a little much. Makes me worry about the other shortcuts Ms. Daughter uses..Frantic Pharmacisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15804872250102867314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-58516462726939731162009-10-20T23:54:40.931-04:002009-10-20T23:54:40.931-04:00Well....it's never a dull day at the Dr. Grump...Well....it's never a dull day at the Dr. Grumpy Headquarters.Lipstickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04346441046070223404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-7125561667965558052009-10-20T23:42:24.595-04:002009-10-20T23:42:24.595-04:00Wow. And to think she could have found a CNA off ...Wow. And to think she could have found a CNA off of Craigslist with much less effort!CrownedwithVictoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15139186237180334168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-15774308158535500902009-10-20T22:33:15.420-04:002009-10-20T22:33:15.420-04:00I think it's sad.
I hate to come off as Debb...I think it's sad. <br /><br />I hate to come off as Debbie Downer but I wish there were more places for people to turn "in times of trouble". <br /><br />My Dad died from Alzheimer's disease and I know how tired a person can get giving 24X7 care. Plus, Dad was big - it was physically exhausting.<br /><br />Over my rant. Signing off.<br /><br />D.D.Kimbra Kaschhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16955657301998255029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-79884679872220803302009-10-20T22:09:15.389-04:002009-10-20T22:09:15.389-04:00Jezus F Christ.Jezus F Christ.ERPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15973334581468131595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-35374066200585593242009-10-20T21:30:47.016-04:002009-10-20T21:30:47.016-04:00I'm also laying bets on no insulin given+ a ba...I'm also laying bets on no insulin given+ a bag of Milano cookies with a Dr Pepper chaser for an ER visit, too.<br /><br />This half wit had the brass balls to call. How many people just dump and run at the hospital lobby with Grandma? <br /><br />At our big lobby, I could see someone wheel up Grandma by the lounge, and park her there for a few hours. Especially if Grandma is quiet.<br /><br />Take me out Old Yeller style if this is the sh*t that will get pulled on me when my brain is shot.<br /><br />2 caps to the head, please.<br /><br />LD50 RatAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-47696018624999732282009-10-20T20:34:05.053-04:002009-10-20T20:34:05.053-04:00THIS is why I told my husband to put me in a home ...THIS is why I told my husband to put me in a home if I get Alzheimer's. I want a decent one, but still, I want to be in a home. <br /><br />Her poor mother... I hope the mother is in a very safe place on Thursday.<br /><br />(My verification was lother... there are so many ways that fits this.)Dananoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-16187074624061106732009-10-20T19:56:23.586-04:002009-10-20T19:56:23.586-04:00I feel so sorry for the woman who called. I took ...I feel so sorry for the woman who called. I took care of my 93-y.o. grandmother who also had Alzheimer's for about a year. There are no days off. At the time, there were no daycares for the elderly. I hired a babysitter for her 3 nights a week so I could take a night course at the university, but Grandma was afraid of the babysitter (a very nice, gentle black woman with whom I had worked at one of the local hospitals), so I had to drop the class. Although we had some relatives in the same town, only one cousin would come to visit Grandma and would sometimes take Grandma for a Sunday for dinner. That cousin deserves an especially wonderful place in heaven when she dies!<br /><br />This woman is probably at the end of her rope and probably about to tie a noose, either for herself or for her mother. And you're all laughing at her -- insert here sounds of disgust! -- couldn't you have given her some helpful suggestions? Mary, I thought you were better than this!<br />Classof65Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-1121132426459184652009-10-20T19:06:58.743-04:002009-10-20T19:06:58.743-04:00Time to start trying the local veterinarians...Time to start trying the local veterinarians...The Vinsl Mannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5883634615775822475.post-69512381995718068672009-10-20T18:43:05.795-04:002009-10-20T18:43:05.795-04:00Ten bucks says an ambulance is called on Thursday ...Ten bucks says an ambulance is called on Thursday for "increased confusion" and she ends up in the ER for the day.Sarahnoreply@blogger.com